I have a friend who is so anxious about coronavirus that I’m starting to worry about their mental health. There seems to be no end in sight for the restrictions they’re applying. As the seasons change, the ability to socialise outside is going to disappear, and they’ll be even more isolated.

I told them I was worried, but they were resistant to the idea that anything was off. How do you accommodate other people’s boundaries, but also step in if you’re worried about someone?

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